Hiya! I really need some help because i really want my hair cut into a bob but my dad wont let me because apparently its his choice how to have it and im only aloud it trimmed.. Im deserate for it to be in a bob because im fed up with my hair now and i know it will look nice shorter .. The hairdresser is coming today and she knows what my hair will look like in a bob, weve talked before and she said it will look nice but my dad wont agree with her and i will only be aloud a short amount off, My dad said when im 16 i can have it how i like, im annoyed because its not his hair and he doesnt have to brush it and live with it.. Im 12 years old by the way.... Please help...x
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
You need to sit down with your dad, like an adult, and talk to him. Stay calm and discuss the problem. Ask him why he feels that you should keep your hair long. I bet one of the reasons is because long hair is youthful. A shorter cut is a little more grown up and your dad probably has a tough time seeing his daughter grow up (you're going to be a teenager soon). After you listen to him tell you his reasons...then let him know why you feel a bob might be a better style for you. Let him know how much effort and upkeep it takes for you to do your hair. You might not get a bob right away. You may have to compromise and maybe work up to getting it the way you want. If he won't budge on the bob then ask him if you can just have it a little shorter then usual, maybe a longer version of a bob. If anything maybe you can just express to your dad that you are in need of a change and if he would be willing to look at some haircuts and mutually agree on one together. Let him know that you respect his authority as your father and whatever he decides you will go with but that you would like it if he could start giving you a little more room to express yourself. He might not budge but i promise if you sit him down and try to talk it out like a young adult you might get somewhere. Even if he still says no, tell him ok, thats fine, and don't go any further with it. He will see that you took his decision like an adult and maybe the next time around you can simply say "do you think i might be able to have a different haircut?" and he might think back to how mature you were the last time and change his mind. I have always found that with parents you get a lot further with honey then with vinegar. (meaning if your sweet even when you don't like the outcome, they're more likely to listen to you the next time around then if you just throw a hissey fit every time) Also, try and see if you can strike a bargain. Ask him if you do extra chores and earn some money and then pay for the haircut yourself can you get what you want? Just remember to say everything in a calm voice. Once you start whining or yelling, it all goes down hill.
by the way, don't drag your hairdresser into it. it's a really stressful situation to be in when parents want one thing and the kid wants another. because they want to do what you'll like but they don't want to get in trouble with the parent.
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
hair has age limits? Try asking him about that. Well anyway, its his money that pays for your living. So live with it.
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
You're right, it is your hair. I say go to a hairdressers' and get it cut. If you're fed up with it, it isn't fair for your dad to insist you keep it long. Why does he want you to have long hair anyway?
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
If he is paying for the haircut then he does have some say in what it should be like.
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
Why dont you try and reach a comprimise with your dad and come to an agreement that suits both of you. Perhaps go shorter than he would like but not AS short as you were planning to go. Perhaps take the tack - "Dad, short hair is sooo much easier to look after if I have it cut and you really dont like it it will always grow back" Maybe before the hairdresser actually cuts it ask her to pin it to make it look like its bobbed and let your dad get used to it without the hair actually having been cut? All the best with this, try and reason with your dad and i'm sure it will work out for you.
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
That is not fair, you are right it is your hair and if he doesn't like it then tell him not to look at you!! JK just try compromising with him tell him you wont go to short or just saying that you have a right to what your hair looks like and that you do not tell him how his hair should look!! then he will say well i am the father, and you say i know daddy but i am your baby girl and i want to look pretty!!!!
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
I know how frustrating this must be for you-but at the end of the day he is your father so please don't do what someone has advised you by going and getting it done anyway.How angry would he be?????
I feel so sorry for you-my daughter is 8 and I let here have a say in her hair-I do think he is being a little harsh.
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
Hi, I'm 9 and I've already got my hair in a bob, and guess what? It looks brilliant. I say that you stand up to your dad and say that you won't take no for an answer!... Or any other negative words.
Good luck with your hair!
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
listen to your dad you will regret getting a bob!=D
hope that helps??
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kaley
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
MAybe he thinks the style you want is going to make you to look mature..We all know daddys dont want their daughters growing up too fast.
If you approach him in a respectful way and explain your reasons for wanting it. He should be able to see sense. If you get all tempered and angry and throw a fit..he'll not listen. Being treated as an adult involves behaving like one as well!
Cant your mum have a word with him? They're usually good at coming to a happy conclusion.
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
Heya. Im the same age as you and go through quite the same problems. Before your dad can say anything, get the hairdresser to cut your hair! He wont be able to do anything about it! If it costs alot, pay the hairdresser with your own money or promise your dad something.
Hope it works X
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
Well i know your desprate and its not your dads hair but i'm afraid at 12 i have to side with him alot of girls look nicer with longer hair why not ask to have a couple of layers or something like that to make it look cool. If you were 15+ i'd have said something diffrent but i'm not giving any ideas be paitent with your dad i know its hard and you feel like an independent girl now but try to work things out with him you still have a few more years till you'll be truly independent.
I wish to warn you now that getting it cut now he said no is only going to anger him and make him think you don't respect him the only way to gain his trust and let him think you are old enough to think through these decsisons now is to talk to him tell him that you won't get it cut into a bob but your not very happy about his descsion and try to ask about somthing else like layers or something.
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
he probably thinks it will be difficult for you to maintain and he wants it to be neat looking. the problem also is that the bob needs more frequent hair cuts to keep it looking good. longer hair is easier to keep because you can get trims every two to three months to keep it refreshed. a bob needs to be cut every 4-6 weeks to keep it refreshed.
i think you should listen to dad. you will not like spending the time to deal with your hair. plenty of more interesting things to be doing outside and with your friends.
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
Talk to your dad. Make a deal with him. Like that you will pay for your hair and if it looks bad you wont complain and will live with it.
Ask your mom about your hair and if she can maybe make your dad letn you!
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
I have two daughters. One is grown and one is 8.
I understand that your Dad wants to keep control over such things...it's his way of keeping you his little girl.
But, I agree with you....at 12 years old, I think you should have at least some input on how you wear your hair.
And, I just had my youngest daughters cut into a bob because you are right.....long hair is hard to take care of. It is harder to keep clean and harder to keep tangle free. It really is a chore to have longer hair. A chore that most younger girls don't want to or need to have to deal with.
Good luck, Sweetie!
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
well dads law is dads law... i know im a dad...of 3 girls....
jessica had loveley long curly hair, just l;ike mine, and she cut it herself slowly.... its now in a bob....
and to be honest, once its gone, its cant be glued back on...tryy asking dad why not? and argue your corner.. tell him why you want shorter hair, and explain yourself.
impress him with your debating skills...
good luck.. and you coould point out that youre growing up... us dads seem to think all our kids stay babies... we ignore the fact that yopure growing up.... or we try to!
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
Thats wat my dad says... he says "You are my daughter, my hair" but i understand... because he wants me to have the hair that he wants right now because wen i grow older i would be out of control and dye my hair and shorten it and he wont be able to stop me from doing it, so just let your hair be the way it is, your dad onli wants you to be his little girl and have the hair that he wants... i used to be just like you wen i was 12 :) but now im 15 and i totally understand why dads are like that hehe, just make your dad happy and dnt cut your hair until he says you can :)
xxx
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
dont be all in his face or anything, Just try telling him 'your not a little girl anymore its your decision what you have done to your hair, Maybe when i was younger it was up too you but im growing up and this is how i would like it becuase its what i would like and not letting me shows your just not letting go of when i was a younge kid.' If doesnt work dont be off with him just dont be smiley with him be blunt not horrible blunt.
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
Remind him "It will grow back"
In a few months you'll need it trimmed as usual
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
what does your mother say about this? Can't you discuss this issue with her? You can cut your hair as you like but fathers are very possessive when their daughter is consider. Try to explain the difficulty of taking care long hair.
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
DO IT ANYWAY!!! lol just tell ya hairdressa how u want it... all ya dad can do is ground u 4 a while!
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
Dont go getting it cut without him agreeing. I know its your hair but as someone else said, dads dont want you to look too adult, too soon.I know it would look nice but if you can come to some sort of compromise, it will go easier on you.
People may think you are older than you are then you could be in some danger from the boys.
You can explain that it will be easier to keep neat and tidy if it is about a HALF of what it is now.
My grandchildren are 12 and 13 yrs old, girls and both have long wavy hair...but they did get something nasty creeping around on their scalps. It was a devil to get rid of the creepies and they still have the odd one. sooner or later, their dad will have to agree to them having shorter hair.
Good luck
Nana Gill
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
on your walk home from skwl
pop into a hairdressers and get it done if your willing to pay for it yourslef
HA thatll teach him
also try asking him what itd feel like if his hair was long and he wasnt allowe to have it cut the way he liked it
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
Well what if you do not like the style after it was done, guess who has to hear you complain and cry? Your father. Guess who has to hear you yell. scream your father? Guess who will have to pay to get it fix? Your father.
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
I have to say..that is very unfair..you're growing up..you're a girl..its what girls do..they change their hair.
When i was 14 i dyed my hair pink, purple, blonde and blue and hacked it really short!
Your dad is very unreasonable. Perhaps could you confide in a female family member and then get them to have a word with him.
I have to say i always regret havin g my hair cut off!! But if you want it go for it...i mean you hardly are stopping out at midnight and drinking..your dad should start to let his little girl go
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
My mom was like that and I never got a hair cut till I was 12 and my hair was down to my thighs! Now she wonders why I like it super short! But just tell your dad to back off and that he doesn't have to live with your and you do! Or just go out by yourself and get it done without him knowing he will be mad but you will get the cut you want! What i did was I never left my mom alone about my hair. So just find moments to bring your hair up to your dad and do it alot! Like get a magazine and be flipping throught it and say dad her hair looks good then touch your hair and say to yourself but loud enought for him to hear I wish I had her hair!
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
idk?
Its MY hair not my Dads!!?
Don't what ever you do get it cut anyway! Your Dad is being unfair, but you don't want to go behind his back and upset him. He probably wants to keep your hair long cause its girly and he thinks that girls should have long hair. He probably thinks you would regret it too! I was always allowed to have what ever hair cut I wanted and always regretted it when I had it cut short.
Have a chat with him and ask why he won't let you. If you speak to him like an adult, he will be more likely to treat you like one. If you go behind his back he will lose trust in you.
Good luck hun xx
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